Celibacy - hmmm!

[ausgirl]

I will do my best not to get myself in trouble here!:confused:

My latest post in the 30, celibate thread lead me here.......

While I know it is the right thing - this celibacy thing is none too easy and definitely not all it's cracked up to be - I mean just cause you're a christian and single and attempt to make the right choices, the feelings don't automatically switch off - wish they did!

I don't think it's so much the sex (though I'm sure that'd be amazing), I think it's more the emotional connection with that special someone that I most long for.

Anyway, just venting a little.....:)

[SueQ]

I hear you......obviously I haven't been celibate all my life....my 11 year-old daughter is proof....but I do miss the intimate emotional connection as much, if not more than the physical.....Still, I will wait...How many years until I get my virginity back?;)

[R. Smith]

I've been waiting 4 Miss Right for 11 years now. It hasn't been eazy, but I have faith. I am 34, single with no kids.

AusGirl - because I'm single...the feelings aren't turned off. Its so true. But yet, I pray everyday...that the Lord would be a lamp unto my feet...and guide my path.

-Roger

[Sharon]

Yeah ..... celibacy pretty much ..... well ........ here's a visual aide

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But I know that I am pleasing the Lord by following His edicts. They are for my own benefit. Still a difficult pill to swallow sometimes. I can only get through by leaning on Him. Sometimes I think I lean so hard that I'm so glad His back will never break from the pressure :eek:

[SonflowerGurl]

Interesting thread -- I don't normally post in this section but I am well over 30.

Um. I was married before several years ago and yes, you miss it. After my marriage ended it would have been easy to fall into unhealthy relationship patterns (a nice way to say not being celibate). But I know in my heart that if I had done that it would have compromised my intimacy with Holy Spirit.

That's when I decided until I marry again, with God's help, I choose to be celibate (I can't be regain my virginity but maybe my purity). Also, there is something very special about entering a marriage right. Because when you wait until you've allowed God to bless the union -- you've invited Him into your marriage (and no one else).

And yes, especially if you've been in intimate relationships before you definitely miss both the emotional and physical parts of the relationship. I guess that's part of eating from the "tree of knowledge".

[CAfan]

I think the emotional connection is what is missed the most...and that's coming from a guy. I was married for 7 years and have been divorced for a few months and the pain of divorce is like an emotional hell on earth. Not having sex anymore is nothing compared to the emotional trauma. And just for the record...I was totally faithful in my marriage. She was not. Either way I will not have sex outside of marriage now. I've made up my mind about it!!